Learning to learn: Part 2

Posted by sasha marie kasko at 1:53 PM Monday, December 12, 2011
For those of you who read my post last week about Graym locking himself in his car and my attempt to console him, I want to share with you another wonderful moment that took place in our relationship. For those of you who didn't read it, you should definitely go back, give it a look-over, and then come back to this post :)

On Saturday night, Graym and I had some time to ourselves and decided it would be a nice time to chat. One of the things that I love most about Graym is that, more often than not, he is the one to initiate deep and meaningful conversations. I think it's a common stereotype that guys need to be prodded with a jack hammer before opening up their hearts, so it's a nice change of pace to know that Graym is more than willing to share his thoughts and discuss tough topics. We took advantage of the time to talk about the post-car incident. To be more clear: my attempt to cheer Graym up. It was obvious that, try as hard as I did, I just didn't love Graym in the way that he needed that night. I loved him, yes, but in the way that I would've wanted to be loved if the roles were reversed. I was determined to learn him, to learn his needs and the best way that I can support him, and what better way to do that than to just...ask. 

"What did I do right? What didn't I do that you wish I had? What can I do next time to make sure I am there for you in every aspect that you need?"

A wonderful and enlightening conversation followed suit as he shared the emotions he was feeling that night and how I could love him better the next time he faces a bump in his day. It was such a joy to learn more about Grayms heart: the way he processing trying events, the way he copes, and the way he'd like for me to comfort him. 

It's so nice to know that every day is yet another opportunity to learn more about each other. I know that even after 100 years of marriage I won't be able to understand the entire complex and beautiful heart that Graym has, but boy, that sure is my goal! To love him, to serve him, and to learn him.

I can't wait to dive even deeper into the heart and mind of this man I am so crazy about ♥

1 comments:

  1. Edie said...:
    December 12, 2011 at 5:49 PM

    Your differences in looking at rough situations sound almost exactly like how Jordy and I are. It's tough to forget what makes YOU feel better and remember what makes him feel better, but once you get into the habit, it makes things go so much smoother. He can learn to calm you in the way you need, too, and you'll both take something away and maybe even integrate that into how you want to be comforted in the future. Congratulations on your breakthrough <3

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